Internet dating the pitfalls
Although most dating websites feature photos and detailed, searchable profiles covering everything from personality traits to likes and dislikes, this information isn't necessarily useful in identifying a partner, Finkel and his coauthors write.That's partly because daters don't always know what they want in a mate -- even though they generally think they do.Studies suggest that people often lack insight into what attracts them to others (and why), and therefore the characteristics they seek out in an online profile may be very different from those that will create a connection in person, the review notes."Pretty much all of online dating works through profiles," says Finkel, an associate professor of social psychology at Northwestern University, in Evanston, Illinois."But you can spend a zillion hours studying profile after profile and, at the end of that Herculean effort, how much closer are you to knowing if there's a romantic spark?Not to mention the fact that we spend most of our time connecting through our phones on social apps like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat anyway.
Your world is no longer limited to the people you went to school with or live near¬¬, as using online dating allows you to meet and connect with people you probably never would have met without the Internet.It allows people access to potential partners they otherwise would not have," says Eli J. D., the lead author of the new review, which was commissioned by the Association for Psychological Science and will appear in the February issue of the journal Psychological Science in the Public Interest."However, specific things the online dating industry does [do] undermine some of its greatness." One of the weaknesses of online dating is an over reliance on "profiles," the researchers say.D., one of the review's authors and a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester Medical Center, in Rochester, New York.
The shopping mindset may be efficient online, but when carried into face-to-face interactions it can make daters overly critical and discourage "fluid, spontaneous interaction" in what is already a charged and potentially awkward situation, Reis and his coauthors write.
In fact, that’s how 63% of married couples met their spouse.