Not dating but jealous
“These are all part of healthy relational habits,” she says.
“When you or your partner expresses feelings of jealousy, you can increase your reassurance with these behaviors.” It’s tempting to take a peek at your partner’s phone while they’re in the shower, or log in to their email while they’re walking the dog. “If someone is going to be unfaithful, they’ll find a way to do it.
We can’t write off our jealousy as ‘I just care’ or ‘It’s other people I don’t trust’, but we need to be able to spot the signs of our jealousy and learn to overcome our insecurities, anger, and suspicion.Otherwise, your partner may start to feel claustrophobic, and eventually resentful over being controlled—especially if they’re constantly foregoing hobbies and activities to try to keep your panic at bay, Cooper says.On top of the reassurance behaviors and identifying your fears, invest in self-care.“If we deconstruct the jealousy and figure out what’s underneath it, then we have more direction of where to go,” Dr. You can also talk to someone you trust (who can give you an unbiased perspective), or schedule time with a therapist to begin the process of peeling back layers to what’s actually going on, Dr. “It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to admit that you’re jealous,” Dr. But it’s important to do so—especially if you’re feeling it regularly because jealousy can be a sign that trust has been broken in some way, and you’re not feeling safe.
Rather than navigate those murky emotions on your own, bring your partner into the conversation.
And being jealous of the funny work stories your partner tells about so-and-so could subliminally be making you feel like aren’t funny enough.