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While we are worried about who should message who first, or making sure we don’t respond right away so as not to seem over-eager, someone who would have been good for us might be meeting someone else who actually talks to them like a normal person.
Plus, a guy that is going to be put off by the fact that I’m willing to message first is not my kind of guy anyway.
Be happy you got a unique opener and try to send them something unique in response, or at least ask them something about their profile.
I stole this screenshot from a friend: I get that confidence can be attractive.
But, when I go out of my way to send stuff other than “hey” or “how are you,” I often get a curt response that doesn’t really make me want to continue the conversation.
If someone reaches out, and you are interested in talking to them, talk to them!
And acting like someone doesn’t need to have personality just because they are attractive is basically saying “I don’t care about what you have to say.” I know some people feel like they DON’T need to have personality because they are attractive but 1. If you haven’t seen an indication of someone feeling this way, why automatically assume they feel so entitled?What Hinge found out about the best opening messages can benefit daters everywhere, so keep it in mind next time you're on a swiping spree and later need to (actually) start messaging people.Hinge found these conversation-starter trends in some top cities: San Francisco: “Peter Pan Syndrome”Conversation-starter: Youth or childhood nostalgia = 68 percent higher response rates in San Fran than in other cities. Boston: “No Nonsense”Conversation-starter: Straightforward or cynical = 59 percent higher response rates in Boston than in other cities.I’m not going to spam you with interview-style questions just because you can’t even give me a starting point.
Exhibit B: A very common thing I notice is that men love to complain that women send boring openers on bumble (which is fair, women frequently complain about the boring openers that men send on every other app).
A few month ago I wrote a “how to ask a woman out from a dating app” guide for men, but lately I have realized that people need even more basic instructions than that.